Street Harassment – Rant Time!
July 16, 2014 § Leave a comment
Ok, I’m just going to say it. I’m done with men weighing in on the issue of street harassment, ie, strangers yelling lewd things at you.
No, you don’t understand. And its not because you don’t care, and its not because you’re not trying, and its not because you’re not good at putting yourself in someone else’s shoes. It’s because the MOST any of you will *ever* get this crap is still LESS than the *average* female has gotten by the time she turns 16.
No, that is not exaggeration, it is not hyperbole, its the straight up truth. It’s probably hard for guys to wrap their heads around, but its a fact women live with every day. And I know its not the majority of men who do it, its a minority who do it repeatedly to lots of different women and girls.
Another factor you may not realize is the genuine fear. When you’re imagining this happening to you, and thinking you’d find it complementary, are you picturing it coming from someone who could *easily* overpower you if they decide they don’t like your answer? Because that’s the reality we live with.
And no, its *NOT* “just the ugly ones” that bother us, and suggesting that is frankly insulting. I’ve been harassed by physically attractive men and it was just as unwelcome and unsettling. Plus the attractive ones tend to get extra aggressive, because how could I not want them? And that gets genuinely frightening.
So I really don’t want to hear how we should lighten up, and I REALLY don’t want to hear how you’d take it as a compliment.
Because no, you wouldn’t. Not if it happened to you the way it happens to us. You really, really wouldn’t.